Breaking Up Is Hard to Do

I was going to say & not just by how the "______" sang it but I have no idea who sang that song. According to Limewire it ranges anywhere from The Carpenters to Paul Anka to Gloria Estefan to Neil Sadaka and considering the cheesiest person on the list is the last, I'll go with him (although it IS a female voice).

However, breaking up IS hard to do even if you are the doer. I had to make the uncomfortable call last night because it turns out a certain apologetic someone was not sinking into the recesses & texted me Wednesday to see how my week was going. Considering what I was doing on Wednesday, I found the whole thing a little uncomfortable... (I was riding a unicycle while juggling dishes so it just made it difficult to text back). So I responded saying I'd call him tomorrow... (course I texted late enough where he wouldn't call me back).

So I do the call .. How do you broach that subject anyways? I thought I was a big enough bitch on Sunday where I wouldn't warrent a return phone call but in spite of that I got a call forcing me to make the obligatory finishing call.... Which I do as I was walking to Sandra's (classy, I know but I wanted a quick escape if need be) I made the dial and I explained as nicely as I could that if there wasn't anything there by now I doubt there would be. I've been seeing him what? for almost 2 months. I thought it was good argument... Apparenlty not, but he understood anyways and wished me a fun nite. (THANK GOD).

All this talk about ex's (well, I don't consider him one but I needed a segway), brought up an interesting conversation with Special K. I'm almost finished reading Sex, Drugs & Cocoa Puffs and I like it. She on the other hand loathes it which I could never figure out why. So I asked her & her response was:

God, where do I start? It has been awhile since I read the book and I think what turned me off of it the most was the fact that it was that asshole Sean's manifesto and I attributed it to blanket the majority of those overachieving, bic generational, pompous, emotionally void, spiritually vacant men that roam this cities most trendy and exclusive restaurants and watering holes. It to me was a slap in the face about how nothing seems to have any spritual or emotinal ground, it is all so free will based and me, me ,me mentality.

Ok then... I responded with my insight:

If they (being these men) take it to be some manifesto to live by, then to me, it shows a dull side to their intelligence. I just finished the chapter last night about his experiences with the media & he explains that celebrity interviews are generally 20 min long & so they hypothesize to what the star's personality may be .... but he basically says, wtf do I know, I'm just writing whatever I think comes to my head... To which I apply to his book.. He's writing about musings he has about Saved by the Bell. So unless he has first hand knowledge of chronicled events, it's all just speculation so basically use your own head & make opinions for yourself! I thought that was pretty ironic actually & it made me laugh.

She retorts:

Let me qualify my bitterness. Sean picked me up for a date and spewed about coldplay being the death of true romanticism and then at dinner asked me "the questions" that make or break the realtionship(Chuck Klosterman has 23 questions he asks those he's dating as a way to sum them up.. all random and all personal to HIM). Don't get me wrong I really liked the book and have told others to read it . . it just left a bit of a bitter taste in my mouth.

AHHH Yes... the ex association. Been there, done that. I find it to be one of the things that sucks most about breaking up... The association factor. Either you shared something personal between the two of you that brings back tearful memories OR, my favourite, they do something asinine when you were together, hated it and the hatred just increases ten fold when the relationship disolves.

Case in point. I loathe the movie Bad Boys. I hate it and will never like it. Probably one of the reasons I dislike Will Smith. It came out in April 1995 (coinciding with the anniversary of my mother's death actually) was also the time I was dating TNW. So instead of being there for me on a very painful day, the ass-clown that he is went to an advance screening with Boner completely forgetting what an important day it was to me. Thanks hon! love you too..... (I still shake my head when I write that out) I'm not going to even justify why it was important he was there that day but he knew & when asked about it, apparently he smacked his head with his hand and said "shit" (from what I was told)...

I also Hate Coldplay but that because they suck & it's only reinforced because Train Wreck loves them. Cold play sucks, Train Wreck sucks ipso facto: I should hate it.