Every breathe you take....

Yesterday I kind of went on about the lunch I had several weeks back that I said didn't go well. It's not that it didn't go well. It was fine. I think what did it for me though is that he is a one degree of seperation from my stalker.... yes, I had a stalker. Or No! I'm sorry, may be not because as he put it, and I quote, "I don't have to stalk you".... then don't. I don't understand the problem here but what does that mean? that I'm privleged that you dedicated so much time to freaking me out? Besides him, I've had one other instance with a man in the bushes that ended in a 911 call but whether or not he had been watching me for a while is up for debate. (reason one for leaving the west end).

Anyways, no, this is about 5 years ago. I went out with Kira one Thursday on a whim to where else? The Roxy. Not only did I go out on school nights back then, but I also hung at the roller. I met this group of guys. Stalker had originally tried to chat me up but I was more interested in his friend in the corner. Believe it or not, I go for quiet guys. May be it's because opposites attract. May be it's because I like to have all of the attention or may be it's because I just find with quiet guys they don't seem to have to prove anything. Whatever the case, generally when you get them alone, they don't shut up.

Anyways, the guy that I fancied didn't live here as he was getting his MBA at UCLA and was home for the American Thanksgiving weekend. We agreed to meet up again that weekend but seeing as neither of us had cell phones (I honestly don't know how I got by back then without my phone), we had to exchange our friends' phone numbers to get hold of each other. This is how stalker originally got my number.

The weekend passed, I saw MBA again and said we'd see eachother again at Christmas (which was only about 3 weeks) It's during this time that the fan got covered in goo.

Even though, I had met MBA's friends and got along with them and even chatted to one on occasion (as friends) it was stalker that made me pause. You see he started phoning & not just me. If I wasn't home, he'd phone Charlene's phone to see if I was with her. If I wasn't, he'd phone Nic & Kris's phone to see if I was with them. This is all happening of course unbeknownst to me or at least to the extent of it. I was with Charlene one night going to her company christmas party when he phoned her cell from guess where? Phoenix! Ya... just thought he'd say hi. At this point I still didn't have a clue that he was phoning my other friends.

It was one night when I was safely tucked away in my bed sleeping that I recieved a call from him:
Him: Hi, what are you doing?
Me: Sleeping
Him: Ya? you like being alone in your bed?
Me (not fully awake as it's about 3am and so didn't get it at first): Sure, I can sprawl out
Him: No. Do you like being ALONE in your bed?
Me (clueing in... who am I kidding, I'm always slow): HUH? UH! ya! I love it.. can't beat it.....
Him: You know, MBA has forgotten all about you, you shouldn't waste your time on him bla bla bla bla

OK dude... he's your best friend & you're totally mowing his lawn.. What's up with that?

Christmas time came & there was a one day window where I might have seen MBA as I was heading off to Edmonton to spend Christmas with my brother and so needless to say didn't see him.

I came home shortly after the holiday and took my friends out to a Grizzlies Game (was working at GM place back then). That night Kris divulged that dude wouldn't stop phoning looking for me and Charlene told me about how often he phoned.. FROM EVERYWHERE. What got me is that Kris wouldn't have any reason to lie to me about stuff like that so I decided to confront stalker once & for all.... but it went more like this on his voice mail:

"Look you weirdo.. leave me the alone, leave my friends alone & never, I repeat never phone me again"

This prompted him to phone me at work and rebuttle with "I don't have to stalk you".

Grrrreat.

What I love is that MBA, being the close friend he was, wouldn't believe that his buddy would ever act like that and thinks I was a little harsh..... um. OK?

I've seen stalker since then at the roller and pretty much hates me (good) but as I was chatting with him, he tells me that he bought a house out in Pitt Meadows. I say "oh ya? out near riverview eh?" apparently didn't go over well.

Needless to say, I don't want to invite THAT back into my life.