Rebuttle....

In my last post someone put a comment down "May be you should re-read, He's not that Into You" which really fired me up for a number of reasons.

However, before I go into my never ending rant of why I hate that book, I wanna clear up a couple of mis-conceptions. I could see how one may have thought that the introductory paragraph leads into the rest of the entry but it doesn't. My boyfriend snores.... and he snores loud. I realized I must like him if I didn't get up in the middle of the night & bolt like I did the first time I met him (see March 23 entry). Every time I kicked him, it was like I was turning up the power & he started to snore louder. So I moved to the couch.

Also my general rant was reflective on many issues & many people (myself included) as I hate the "B" word. So I was partly reflecting why I always have my back up.

NOW... "he's not that into you" K. I suppose the book does serve a purpose to all the women out there with no self esteem that stick to men that barely give them the time of day & they need to be shaken & told "You can do better!" I hate that book because it's giving all the power to the men. Why is it up to them to decide the fate of our relationship. Last time I checked it took 2 people. You know, if you don't like the way you're being treated.. DO SOMETHING. Take some fucking power back & be the women that he was attracted to in the first place. You know why he doesn't call you anymore? cuz you're boring. You lost your spine & now you're really annoying.

If you want to read a good book that's along those lines it's called "Why men love Bitches". It's not about being the psycho hose beast that lies in all of us but rather it's about remembering that yes, you are a person with your own life too. Never forget that. Too many women meet someone & start dating & then all of the sudden *poof* stop being themselves because they are trying to be this ideal of what they think he would like. Doesn't that just get a little tiring??? Why would you want to be with someone that doesn't like you for you? It's going to get old & you realize all of the sudden that you're not happy & then you start fighting etc... let him know what he's getting into and you know what? he maaaaaaay just like that. If he doesn't then the hell with him. Even though it doesn't feel like it sometimes... there are other men out there.

I hate "He's Not that Into You". We all deep down know this but are too afraid to admit it to ourselves. However, by hanging around as long as we do, we just hand over our power & self worth & that I find to be BS. I also hate that in every situation the book is being thrown in as sure-fire answer to every problem.

Here's a tip for everyone... If he was really going to do it (whatever that is call, make plans, commit etc...), he would have done it by now. The same can be said to men... Think about it when you like someone, you stop making excuses.