Don't Waste The Pretty

I recieved this email from a friend this week & it's what Oprah has to say about men. Now I'm not the biggest Oprah fan BUT what is being said here just makes sense... Bottom Line: DON'T WASTE THE PRETTY!

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. (that means actually listen to it.. we all know, but just choose to ignore)

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. (so sleeping w/ him in 5 min is bad?)

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you, as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. (YA DAVE!)

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think, "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you. (I control everything)

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. (I left that trailor park YEARS ago)

He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? (CUZ HE TOLD ME SO!)

Always have your own set of friends separate from his. (but i dump my friends when I start dating)

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. - He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior.

Change comes from within. (or for the guy on davie, the street)

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. (what if I feel more important then him?)

Do not make him into a quasi-god.

He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. (This is where my problem lies.... )

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs. (ok Dave, there, you got one)

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...

Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone
complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. (why in the world would I dare to live w/ his mother?)

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others. (This one is my favourite)